He loves you. But does he still see you?
Your partner sees you as dependable, solid, a great manager of home and family life. Great 😬 It turns out, everyone sees you this way, even yourself.
This comes up regularly in my sessions with clients, and it also came up in my previous 12 year relationship. We become the ones everyone relies on. We hold things together at home, we are solid at work, we are emotionally present for others, and we are very good at making life function.
Unfortunately, this often means that your husband no longer sees you as a woman. He might still want sex, but even that becomes functional. In fact, everything becomes functional. Everything has a purpose. Nothing feels light, playful, or easy anymore.
For me, this was true in all areas of my life, not just my relationship. This is how it showed up for me:
Work: In 2022, I was hired to lead a company in London. I managed staff and felt like I was carrying everything on my shoulders. I felt like I was babysitting my team and there wasno space left for myself.
Love: I was in a relationship for almost 13 years. I worried about the cleaning, the laundry, his dirty socks. He was no longer looking at me with desire and had lost curiosity towards me. I was deeply sad in that relationship because I loved him and I knew he loved me, but I feltI wasn't seen.
Family responsibility: During that same period, I was also the one dealing with an elderly parent, worrying, being present, and essentially parenting.I felt crushed from all sides.
All of this happened in my late thirties and early forties, and I 'll never go back to that way of living. I ended up closing the company, breaking up with the boy, and moving continent. (a little extreme maybe?) But actually my point isyou don't need to take any of these drastic steps in order to change the dynamic of your life.
So what do we do with this? How do we get out of this trapped situation?
It starts by shifting the way you see yourself. If you are not seeing yourself as a strong feminine woman first, then no one else will.This does not mean it is your fault that you are in this situation. It is not.Butthe solution lies with you, and it is your responsibility to shift that dynamic.
👉When you start seeing yourself differently, others start seeing you differently too.
This requires commitment to change, but it does not have to be hard or painful work.If you want to feel lighter, more playful, and more bubbly, the work you do on yourself has to feel light, playful, and alive. It also requires changing things in your routine.
I have created a framework to help you shift from the heavy manager mode into amore spacious, feminine way of being. This does not mean divorcing or changing big parts of your life.
The 3 shifts are around:
• Being free: going back to your essence, freeing yourself from perceived constraints, pressure, doubts.
• Being sensual: connecting with your body again, sensation, being in harmony with your full self.
• Being bold: actions that are aligned to your full you. not just the strategic side.
I recommend working on these 3 aspects. I can help you. I have a proven method that will get you to that more vibrant self. And if it doesn't work i commit to refunding you fully in 90 days. So you have nothing to lose in trying.
🖤I am happy to tell you more in an informal chat if you want. But first, you have to decide if this is important to you.
Anna
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