Reclaiming the Full Woman: Beyond the Performance

I’ve never been disconnected from my body.

I danced before I could speak. Movement has always been the way I came home to myself. Even now, after all these years, when I need to feel, when I need to process, when I need to connect...I move. I don’t live from the neck up. I live through the hips, the chest, the fingertips.

But here’s what I’ve learned from the women I coach: women who lead, who run teams or households or both, who are the rock for everyone else:

…Even the strongest ones forget their body.

Or rather—they override it. Not out of neglect, but out of necessity. Because we live in a world that rewards action, performance, structure. A world that demands output. And to meet those standards, many women end up living in their masculine energy.

And just to be clear, when I say “masculine” and “feminine,” I’m not speaking in scientific terms. These are archetypes. Energy patterns. Language that helps us name and navigate the parts of us that don’t always make sense. It’s imperfect, of course. But it gives shape to something real.

Masculine energy is about direction. Doing. Fixing. Providing. It’s brilliant. It gets shit done.

But it’s not the whole story.

Because what happens when a woman lives in that mode too long is...she hardens. She forgets how to receive. She disconnects from her body, from pleasure, from presence, from play. I see this all the time. Women who are so competent, so reliable, so strong. But they’re aching to feel more. To feel alive again. To feel themselves.

When I say “being in your masculine,” I don’t mean being disconnected from your body because it’s masculine. But for many women I work with, stepping into a high-functioning, masculine mode often comes with disconnection. It’s not the masculine that causes it. It’s the pressure to suppress softness, emotion, sensation, in order to meet expectations. It’s the performance of composure, the endless productivity, the armour. That’s what pulls us out of the body. And it’s why reconnecting with our sensual, intuitive, feminine self can feel like such a homecoming.

And here’s what I’ve seen over and over again. When a woman learns to reclaim her feminine energy, her sensual power, something shifts. Not in a dramatic, fireworks kind of way. But slowly, like a soft bloom. She stops gripping. Her relationships shift. She shows up differently at work. She sleeps better. She enjoys things again. She lets herself be seen. Fully.

This is why I do what I do. I work with women who’ve been carrying it all. And who are ready to lead with a different kind of power...by expanding into the parts of themselves they’ve kept tucked away.

You don’t have to choose between being powerful and being sensual. Between structure and softness. You can be both. You already are.

The work is simply remembering.